Recently I was able to go on a work trip to Costa Rica with a group that I’ve been coaching with for the past 3 years. I’ve been so blessed by this group of people and the clarity I’ve been able to get around what I really want in life. They’ve provided a place where it’s normal to socialize/”openly discuss” and work on some of the most difficult parts of life and business.
To that end, I’ll share with you all that I’ve been struggling recently with mortality. As we head into the end of the year, it’s a time to turn inward and reflect. As I reflect on a year with lots of change, I’m asking myself questions. Am I STILL in a midlife crisis? Is this normal? My parents are getting older, and as I write this, I’m on a plane home from the funeral of one of my favorite uncles (mom’s brother). It’s such a real and heavy part of life, and I’m not sure how the rest of the world deals with this, but I know everyone has to. I’m personally sad and scared to navigate the world without the security and unconditional love that my family provides.
As I think about my own mortality and those I love most, I know that it’s an inevitable part of life and out of my control. So, I have been pondering how to move forward in a way that honors these people that have had such an impact on me. How can I make them proud and make myself proud simultaneously?
Secondly, I want to be happy. I want to live a life that is rich and full of experiences. Enjoying this life to its fullest and showing up as the best version of myself. So, the big question is, How? How can I live a life that makes me happy, is rich with experience, and honors those I love most. What would make us all proud? As I think about the most influential people in my life, I’m overcome with gratitude. I feel so lucky to be the benefactor of many great memories, lessons, mentorship, and love. Do they know that? Have I told them? Does it matter?
I keep coming back to the same word. Impact. Who are we but for the impact, we make on this world. I know that in the next chapter, I want to make an impact on others. My hope is that I’ll have a positive impact on people. As many people as possible. By doing so, I’m paying forward the best gift I’ve ever been given. I’m also leaving the jersey better than I found it.
As you come into the holiday season with your family. Stay present, tell them you love them, and think about how lucky you are. There’s so much to divide us these days. My hope is you’ll give equal space to that which binds us together. So many of you have made an impact. For that, I’d like to express my gratitude!
